Self doubt and confidence are major issues in people’s lives.

Self doubt is set up through negative thinking. One of the ways that I have learned to eliminate negative thoughts for my mind and trained my mind to run in a way that works for me, is to focus on my blessings each morning before I get out of bed. Please try this. Write them down. Do not focus on what you want, or have not got, just focus on your blessings.

In the course of my study and observation, it would appear that if a person is curious in asking questions, they are quite often a self-motivated learner. My 90-year-old going on 20-year-old Japanese mother is unbelievably curious. For all of her amazing wisdom of life (she worked until she was 88 years old), she is always learning.

In many of our trainings, we use an alternative model which we call ‘The Success Model’. There is also the traditional model, and one of the points made in the traditional success model is Know the Answer. This usually means that you get recognition from either your boss, your teacher, or your parents, and you get labeled 'smart', 'clever', 'whizz kid', and often singled out for further opportunities. In the alternative model, we have a box that says Know the Question.

What we’ve found is that it usually opens people up to possibility thinking. For example: ‘What do I want my life to look like in three years time?' 'How can I solve this challenge?’ 'How can I be successful?' It seems to alert the brain to resources both internal and external which were not being noticed before that question was asked.

If you practice this regularly, you will find that you get answers to what you want to know in many cases. The point is to know the question that will open up possibilities for your life.

This does require practice, it is not instant gratification.

Written By: Brian Martin

Originally Posted on: www.AskBrianMartin.com

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“Fouryears.Go.” Is a global campaign to galvanize an “urgency coalition” of thousands of organizations and millions of individuals to work in concert for a better world. It is a campaign to create a movement that brings forth a world surge of energy, enthusiasm and action to launch humanity on a sustainable, just and fulfilling trajectory by February 14, 2014.

“Four years” because this is the time period humanity can not afford to go beyond without facing an unacceptable risk of irreversible negative systemic change and because this next four years presents a unique opportunity in history where the anchor points and ideologies of the old world have come loose and are dying and a new common ground is ripe to be born. Ands “Go” because we must start now. There is time to act but no time to waste.

“Fouryears.Go” is a campaign initially being created and shepherded by a coalition of organizations and individuals led by Wieden & Kennedy (the largest independent advertising agency in the world and creators of Nike’s “Just do it” swoosh and Lance Armstrong’s “Live Strong” yellow bracelet campaign), The Pachamama Alliance, P:5Y (a global movement to create a peaceful world), and The 2020 Fund.

The basic premises of the campaign are that:

1. Our planet is fast approaching some ecological tipping points that if passed, could lead to irreversible downward spiral that would alter life as we know it for all future generations.
2. We already possess all the technology and all the well thought out solutions required to resolve the ecological, social and economic crises confronting us. (As Al Gore points out in his new book “Our Choice” his research into solutions around the globe has convinced him that we have the tools to solve three climate crises and we only face one).
3. In resolving these crises lies the possibility of an evolutionary leap that could free humanity from the curses of alienation and injustice and provide a grounded new vision for our future.
4. All that is missing is a universal sense of urgency and a collective will to act.

The purpose of the Fouryears.Go campaign is to provide that collective will. Fouryears.Go will be a special kind of climate change campaign, a campaign to change the climate of people’s thinking, a campaign to cause a positive tipping point in unleashing our collective will, and to do it soon, to do it in the next four years.

And out of that unleashing of collective will, a surge of energy and enthusiasm and activism will infuse a wide array of global projects and initiatives such that by February 14, 2014 the predictable future for humanity, the most likely case scenario that any professional scenario planning organization would forecast, will be one of environmental sustainability, spiritual fulfillment, and social justice.

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Hundreds of millions of people (15% of humanity) will have listed in the campaign. Over a million organizations (a combination of NGOs, business entities, governments or governmental entities, and academic research think-tanks) will have joined the campaign. Tens of millions of volunteers and hundreds of millions of dollars of funding will have been generated in support of projects and initiatives around the globe aligned with the Fouryears.Go objectives.

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Using the internet and social media networks and creative content from Wieden & Kennedy initially (but later from additional media specialists who enroll in the campaign), individuals and organizations will be attracted to Fouryears.Go website where they will experience a compelling enrollment message and be invited to become a part of the campaign. The website will be designed to appeal broadly irrespective of age, gender or particular areas of interest or work (environment, war, food crisis, climate, gender, oceans, etc.)

For more details and updates, sign up NOW at www.FourYearsGo.org and tell everyone!

Dr. Ray Blanchard

Almost everyone has had a situation where they thought they were at the end of the rope or in the jaws of failure, and managed to pull out a victory. Some people only did it once or twice, and they might have chalked it up to luck. They felt relieved and swore to never get themselves in those situations again. They perceived it as a threat. Then there are other people who put themselves in high risk situations as a matter of habit, like an addiction. They live off the adrenalin rush that comes from living on the edge. They need the juice of doing the almost impossible to give life meaning. They live from challenge.

Still, there are people who have stared down adversity numerous times but do not see it as threat nor as a need for challenge. They live from vigor, knowing there may be obstacles when they go for their dreams. They see the opportunity in the situation. In the heat of the moment they go to their next level of genius and find solutions to life’s real problems.

Threat, Challenge, or Opportunity! We have come from all three positions at different times in life. But on which would you make your life stand? Which allows you to be most focused, most often, and is most sustainable?

To live from threat is to live from fear and intimidation. This will ruin your will and destroy your morale over time. It leads you to live life “playing not to lose”. Then you lose. To live from challenge as an ongoing practice is to develop a habit that could lead to emptiness. What happens when there is no challenge? You may be high when in challenge, but the problem with this is that all the other times may be lows. Swinging from highs to lows creates too many mood swings and moments of meaninglessness. Not such a good way to run your life, your company, or anything else.

The other possibility is to operate from “Opportunity”. That is to take every situation as it is, to be present-centered, and in the quick of the moment, to look for the opportunity it poses. This requires you to keep discipline of your mind and not letting yourself go to fear and intimidation and generate a vibration that will only bring forth a matching result. You would be focused in the present, and look for ways to turn any issue into creative new possibilities. If you make this a practice, it will become ingrained into your psyche and behaviors, and it will serve you well in the midst of pressure in all walks of life. This is what athletes and other accomplished superstars do on a more regular basis than the average person. They have done it over and over again, until it becomes their modus operandi, which we call mental strength and clear intention. It is the winner’s edge, and it comes from within. And with practice.

Operating from opportunity, having faith, and knowing that tomorrow is a new day is the kind of optimism that will always make a way. Here are a few thoughts and tips to live by:

1. Be health conscious and take action to make sure you have balanced energy. This gives you a stable foundation and helps you concentrate and focus in present time.

2. Keep your emotions in check and have the presence of mind to not go into negative reaction in the situation. By keeping a positive attitude you generate a powerful vibration that attracts positive energies towards you and allows you to be clear on what works.

3. Reframe a troublesome situation and see the glass as half full rather than half empty. This allows you to see possibilities instead of defeatisms, which give you personal power and energy. That is the cure to depression and it gives you light and lifts you up.

4. Practice gratitude. Live in love rather than fear. Look at each moment as a privilege and be thankful for being alive and in a position to have such opportunities to grow and bring out the best of what you have to offer. In this, you find your true self. Look for the good in people and the situation rather than the disappointments and regrets, which keeps you going forward rather than backwards.

5. Build a solid foundation for your life around a selfless purpose, or something that inspires you and elevates your passion. Always play a game larger than just for yourself, so you have a greater reason for performing at a higher level. It makes life more meaningful and crystallizes your dedication. Be a positive maniac on a mission. It makes you a forced in nature, and it is the “true joy of life”. It makes you do the extraordinary and the miraculous.

6. Always pay attention to the things you did well and celebrate your contributions. It is so easy for a few missteps to cast a shadow of criticism over your accomplishments. There will always be cynics to help you demean yourself if you let them. Don’t listen to the detractors. Surround yourself with people who will remind you of the beauty of your accomplishments and the difference you make. Then keep on doing what average people say can’t be done. Remember your gift, and know that when you use it, it grows. If you don’t use it, you lose it.

The more people you invite, the greater the chances are you will have a full house, or have the results you desire. Invite a lot, but do a proper invitation that works.

Use the ANOLOGY of INVITING TO A PARTY. You need to think about “who” you want at your party to have it work. You need to be clear you really want them there, and make it clear to them, without forcing them.

1. CLEAR INTENTION -- TO GET THE RESULT

Get clear that you want to pack the house, get the results.

2. HEARTFELT -- COMMUNICATION FROM THE HEART

So the invitation is not a casual invite but it is sincere. Don’t say “stop by if you can.” Say “I REALLY WANT you here with me and for me/us, because it means a hell of a lot to me/us!”

3. PRIDE – TAKE PRIDE IN YOUR ACCOMPLISHMENTS

Let them in on your experience. Tell your own story with pride! Show them what it was like for YOU, so they might see how it can also be for THEM. Don’t keep yourself a secret; don’t cheat them.

4. “SHOW & TELL”

Tell them DETAILS. Like a party, tell them the who, what, where, when, how, why…

Who else will be there…What it’s about and what to wear…Where it will be held…When it is and when it starts…How to get there and how to be there to fit the occasion… Why you doing it, why it is important, and why them (your POWERFUL WHY).

5. WILLING TO HEAR “NO” – to get the authentic “YES”!

Give them space. Don’t twist their arm and force them. They need to feel free, and need wiggle room. A “yes” is not authentic unless there was room for “no”, and they chose on their own, voluntarily.

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